Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic + the Domestic by Esther Perel review and quotes

Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic + the DomesticMating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic + the Domestic by Esther Perel
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Very interesting and thought-provoking approach to human sexuality in and outside of relationship.
Well written and demonstrated with case examples, Perel’s book might be of great help to many couples and individuals out there.
Instead of taking a politically correct approach or succumbing to enforced standards, she demonstrates that human sexuality and relationships do not subscribe to a single recipe or norm.

I would recommend this book to anyone who is in a relationship or wondering why they are not in one.

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The caring, protective elements that foster love often block the unselfconsciousness that fuels erotic pleasure.Read more at location 88

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.”Read more at location 343

Eroticism resides in the ambiguous space between anxiety and fascination.Read more at location 448

Love is an exercise in selective perception,Read more at location 464

It generates a feeling of intense personal importance. I matter. You confirm my significance.Read more at location 474

With too much distance, there can be no connection. But too much merging eradicates the separateness of two distinct individuals.Read more at location 549

Thus separateness is a precondition for connection: this is the essential paradox of intimacy and sex.Read more at location 551

Some people can’t allow themselves this selfishness, because they’re too absorbed with the well-being of the beloved.Read more at location 60

I am not convinced that unrestrained disclosure—the ability to speak the truth and not hide anything—necessarily fosters a harmonious and robust intimacy.Read more at location 836

We glorify efficiency and fail to recognize that the erotic space is a radiant interlude in which we luxuriate, indifferent to demands of productivity; pleasure is the only goal.Read more at location 1292

When our innermost desires are revealed, and are met by our loved one with acceptance and validation, the shame dissolves.Read more at location 1760

The rawness of our desire can feel mean, bestial, even unloving. Eros can feel predatory, a voracious grab.Read more at location 2014

To my thinking, cultivating a sense of ruthlessness in our intimate relationships is an intriguing solution to the problems of desire.Read more at location 2026

Erotic intimacy invites us into a state of unboundedness where we experience a sweet freedom.Read more at location 2031

Erotic intimacy holds the double promise of finding oneself and losing oneself.Read more at location 2035

To be inside another and inside ourselves at the same time is a double stance that borders on the mystical.Read more at location 2036

In order to be one, you must first be two.Read more at location 2038

We no longer get work out of our children; today we get meaning.Read more at location 2174

Perhaps this is another way of looking at maturity: not as passionless love, but as love that knows of other passions not chosen.Read more at location 3093
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Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman!: Adventures of a Curious Character … review and quotes

Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!: Adventures of a Curious CharacterSurely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman!: Adventures of a Curious Character by Richard Feynman
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Mr Feynman reminds me of my grandfather. Prankster and joker, who enjoyed his life and people around him.
Topping that, Feynman is a genius and had tremendous impact on the world of physics.
This book is about his life and his view on the world and our participation in it. Honest, straightforward and analytical and yet spiritual.

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It’s a kind of scientific integrity, a principle of scientific thought that corresponds to a kind of utter honesty—a kind of leaning over backwards.

 Details that could throw doubt on your interpretation must be given, if you know them.Read more at location 5126

In summary, the idea is to try to give all of the information to help others to judge the value of your contribution; not just the information that leads to judgment in one particular direction or another.Read more at location 5131

And it’s this type of integrity, this kind of care not to fool yourself, that is missing to a large extent in much of the research in cargo cult science.Read more at location 5140

The first principle is that you must not fool yourself—and you are the easiest person to fool.Read more at location 5154
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Siddhartha by Hesse

Siddhartha (Xist Classics)Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

A really wonderful interpretation of eastern philosophy and Buddhist spirituality.

Siddhartha’s journey is as saintly as it is human. Unlike many other spiritual journey stories, the hero experiences human and spiritual world. Hesse shows that all life experiences are needed to be embraced to gain knowledge or enlightenment.

Siddhartha suffers loss and uncertainty as well as rejoices in enlightenment and physical and sexual bliss.

This book is a great read and a beautiful view into Indian Buddhism.

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Forever War by Joe Haldeman

The Forever War (The Forever War, #1)The Forever War by Joe Haldeman
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Easy read and somewhat predictable story. However, it is very entertaining and engaging.

Haldeman creates a story with realistic military complexity and stupidity. His use of time dilation in space travel, which is often ignored in sci-fi novel, adds an intriguing and thought provoking angle to the narrative.

Finally, the cause for war with the aliens makes one consider all human conflicts and why we are often so ready to kill each other.

Fun read.

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Sikkim, The Secret Land of Himalayas

The world is a beautiful place with much to be amazed and impressed by. However some places are made more special by it’s spirit and by the people that accompany you through the journey. This trip to Sikkim, the Secret Land of Himalayas, will always hold a special place in my heart.

This photo montage shows just the drop of the beauty of that magical place.

Yet, no image can bring forth the magic that was created by the people that shared this experience with me.

Thank you Oleg, Inna, Anyuta and all my friends in Sikkim for bringing joy to this experience.

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Review of The Martian by Andy Weir

The MartianThe Martian by Andy Weir
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This book was a great surprise. The character is well developed and the story flows smoothly. The narrative is funny, witty and smart.

Andy Weir does a great job bringing science to the reader in an intelligent, well researched and detailed way. It makes this book lots of fun for geeks as well as civilian audience.

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Review of On the Trail of Genghis Khan: An Epic Journey Through the Land of the Nomads by Tim Cope

On the Trail of Genghis Khan: An Epic Journey Through the Land of the NomadsOn the Trail of Genghis Khan: An Epic Journey Through the Land of the Nomads by Tim Cope
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This is a long and fascinating tale of adventure, history and culture. Tim Cope delivers an exciting story, that at some points can be almost fiction, about his ride from Mongolia to Hungary in the steps of Genghis Khan.
Along with amusing stories with people and animals, he brings forth a picture of history and culture of the people from various regions from 13th century to modern world.

Most importantly, I believe this is a story of hunger for adventure and desire to experience the world as it has been viewed by men for the larger part of human history. Before the time of internet, cars and plains, men viewed the world from horseback and lived a symbiotic existence with earth and nature. Tim Cope, a man who grew up in a modern world of Australia, rides into that world and brings us his firsthand experience.

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Meditation: The First and Last Freedom by Osho

Meditation: The First and Last FreedomMeditation: The First and Last Freedom by Osho
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

As most of Osho’s books, this one is an easy read. What sets it apart is it’s delivery of Osho’s foundational philosophy of meditation. The details and descriptions of all of Osho meditations build up to his general view on meditation and it’s place in our life.

Osho shows in this book that mediation has to become your life and not just an exercise practiced periodically.

Various meditations become a tool for understanding and experiencing of meditation as a life practice. Yet, the objective is to live your life as meditation with full presence in every action.

Thus, this is probably one of the more important pieces of Osho’s literature for any one who is looking to understand his methodology and approach.

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Quote of the Day

Learn to Laugh. Seriousness is a sin and a disease.

~ Osho



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Sikkim reflections 2

The mountains float in the sky. As I walked to the rock, I could see only a mist on both sides.

I sat in silence for some time as the morning chilled my hands and the sun warmed my back.

Slowly, taking her time, she came out to greet the morning sun. Kanchenjunga and her lesser sisters lazily lowered their night veil and greeted me with her splendor and might.

It is with gratitude and awe I said hello to her majesty and to a new fresh day.


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